This article is inspired by Oladapo Frederick. He asked if I would write something on: “If love is so nice why does it hurt so bad.” Here’s my take on it and I welcome your comment below.
“If love so nice, tell me why it hurt so bad?” Personally I think most people have this whole notion of love twisted! Most people say they want love but then make definitions and demands that suit their own specific needs with little regard to the other person who will be part of this “love” equation. The premise is that if s/he does this and if s/he does that – and does these things the way I want them done, then we’re good! Love works! Love works well for most as long as things are going well. We combine our life experiences with those of another person without the necessary communication that must be had consistently to make sure that the “love lines” are parallel. And when things go awry, all of a sudden, it’s not love anymore. Disdain and contempt enter quickly and all of a sudden love is not as beautiful as it pictured.
I believe that love IS nice and it’s one of the things we are tasked to create and experience while on earth. But like everything else, it takes work – lots of hard work – and communication along with a whole lot of understanding, giving and taking. Without the required efforts, love will hurt.